I hate to seem cynical but perhaps that is my mood while I write this... if you're seeking a relationship use good judgement and common sense...

In the Culture chapter I mentioned girls that were in relationships with foreign men simply to escape or for financial reasons.

I must warn those looking for a serious relationship to be careful and to always think. Don't let your heart overrule common sense nor let your sexual desire be the basis or motive for a relationship. Those seeking to take advantage will sense that and will exploit it to their full advantage and beyond.

I have experienced many things and have heard some very shocking horror stories.

It is not unusual for some women to keep searching for a supposedly better man while they are in a relationship with a supposedly "good" man.

Such women will look for a man with more money and/or a man that is lighter complexioned (many want a man as white as possible) and/or a man that lives in a better country than yours, and/or whatever seems to be "better".

Women often say that there are so many bad men but in my experience there are many, many, many more bad women with no morals or scruples at all. The bad men i've heard about often were honest about their intentions in the beginning or it was often obvious from their lives the type of men that they were.

Men almost never change. A man that is a sex tourist will probably be a sex tourist most of his life. Women love to find bad men that they "think they can change" - WRONG! ! !

It simply never happens - men don't change like that. Only after years of bad experiences do women realize that.....

Often women will flirt with other men, often justifying it as simply friendships - but things happen. As time passes they find themselves developing feelings for these other men. Women tend to become attracted to men that they feel listen to them and understand them, in some cases it may also be for monetary (money) reasons.

It may not even begin with the intention of finding someone else but when women feel neglected they tend to turn their attention towards men that will listen to them or meet their emotional (or financial) needs.

If they were truly satisfied (or truly God-fearing) they would not play with such temptations but sadly in my experiences that has not been the situation.

So many times women have done this to me. They say i'm such a "good man" but all the while they are still looking, searching for that someone else - another man - one that is better.

Many people are just never satisfied with what they have, then when they lose it they regret it forever.

I can't tell you how much it deeply saddens me to hear such stories of men being hurt over and over again. There are many good women in the Philippines but the actions of a few bad women make all Pinay (Filipina) seem bad.

In the minds of sex tourist, it just justifies their own bad behavior. I was once warned by an Australian named Paul (a sex tourist) regarding an ex-girlfriend. He initiated contact with me.

He asked me if I was certain about her. When I replied to his questions he said "f*ck you're green" (naive). He had said that I didn't "know about those girls (Pinay)" and further implied that they were all liars and not to be trusted.

When women lie and/or cheat it only justifies that type of thinking amongst sex tourist and in their minds it proves to themselves that they are right (correct) about Filipinas.

Story One:

I will tell you a recent story of a couple. The details and countries are correct but I will use other names to protect their identities. This is a brief story of "Donald" (from Australia) and "Victoria" (a Filipina from Cebu).

Two (2) days before I left Cebu we were to attend their wedding, however due to other circumstances we missed the wedding. They seemed like a happy couple but I did notice that Victoria seemed a bit cold, meaning she didn't seem to be so excited about the upcoming wedding.

I left Cebu just over a month ago but a week ago Donald was told some very heartbreaking news. You see he was excited because Victoria was pregnant. She was just starting to show signs of the pregnancy at the time I left Cebu.

Donald called his friends, Rovina and Elvira, crying. He came to their house to tell them the shocking news. Victoria confessed that he was not the father of the unborn child. She also had a boyfriend from India and apparently he was the father of the child.

He thought back to the time she became pregnant and realized he was away in Bohol at that time. He was devastated and completely heartbroken. He had two (2) weeks remaining until his flight back home and apparently he is staying away from his soon-to-be ex-wife. He plans to annul the marriage immediately.

He said that all Filipinas are liars and can't be trusted. He says he will never return to the Philippines ever again....

It's not true that all Filipina (Pinay) are liars, I do understand his feelings, his hurt/pain, as I have meet countless girls online that indeed hurt me and lied horribly (to say the least!) - I won't go into details as some of them may even read this! I must say I have also met many Filipina that were also very, very honest.

Update: 31 January 2013 - I was later told that Victoria's behavior was because she believed/suspected Donald had been sexually involved with other girls during their courtship. Having said that, remember the saying "two wrongs don't make a right".

Story Two:

This is one of my own personal experiences. I will simply call her "Ms. V", she resides in Quezon City (near Manila).

Ms. V seemed very nice and as always they seem honest up front. At the time she was attending Our Lady of Fatima University in Quezon City. She claimed to live with her aunt saying her parents were in Masbate and that she had only one child - a daughter - from a Filipino boyfriend that raped her and never helps her financially.

NOTE: Acquaintance Rape or Date Rape was not a crime when I wrote this. Often the girls are blamed. In this case she claimed her friends got her drunk at a party and it was her first time drinking and they allowed him to have his way with her.

As time went on things seemed alright but in my mind for some unknown reason I became suspicious. I decided to have her investigated. My intital thought were to contact a private investigator but that would be too costly, however, one investigator did give me some extremely useful information.

The private investigator stated that there was woman on her street, "very close" to the given address, that they previously investigated who had a reputation for scamming men.

Still I wanted more answers... So I had a Filipino friend call her pretending to be a former classmate. My friend said to her "guess who it is, don't you remember me?" then began to ask how she was doing, if she was married, where she lived, etc.

It so turned out that she has two (2) children from an OFW (possibly her husband), has her own home and many other contradictory details were given. She did attend the University but couldn't afford to continue and had recently quit.

I confronted her and she admitted the truth and she is still involved with the father of her children but said he was working as an OFW in Saudi Arabia and never helped her financially.

I wish I could say I rarely heard such stories but i've heard such stories many times and several times I have even met women that were supposedly "serious" about meeting/wanting me but had other boyfriends - foreign, local or sometimes both!

I can't say it enough - BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL!!!!! GO THERE AND SEE FOR YOURSELF!!!!

After seeing how a woman lives ask yourself have the things she said make sense and match what you've seen and experienced.

If you have ANY suspicion - ANY AT ALL - BEWARE!

Don't be paranoid but also don't be blind and too trusting. Remember this old proverb (saying) "actions speak louder than words"...

If her actions don't match her words then she is most likely lying. Also beware of women, that when caught lying or doing wrong, try to put the blame on you. It's her way of evading being caught, trying to make you feel you've done something wrong or trying to make you feel guilty for HER wrong doings!

If that is the case... don't walk... RUN AWAY AS QUICKLY POSSIBLY before you are hurt seriously. Sometimes it's difficult to leave if you become very attached emotionally, it's better to leave before that happens.